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Monday, April 20, 2015

Working Together to Stop Violence

                             Working Together to Stop Violence
By Albert B. Kelly

This column piece is not the column I planned to present to readers this week, but the events of the past 10 days moved me in another direction.  I’m speaking about the recent shooting at a local restaurant in which one man lost his life and another was critically injured. It echoed the sad and painful events that drew the curtain on 2014. 

Last year was tragic not only for Bridgeton, but for the entire county, collectively enduring a year with more violence leading to homicide than we’ve known in recent memory. Unfortunately in our county, unlike larger metro areas, when one city suffers it seems to literally bleed into neighboring cities. 

In light of events in Ferguson, NYC, Cleveland, South Carolina, and now Tulsa; this year seems to be the year in which every police force throughout the country is under a microscope with regard to policing tactics, community relations, and use-of-force protocols to name a few . This is as it should be given the number and nature of the police-involved incidences we’ve seen in recent days.

Be that as it may, I have stated publicly and still maintain that we cannot short circuit the investigative process nor should we rush to quick and easy judgments- but we should allow the judicial process to run its course. Many others see things differently, and having made their judgements, it’s all about indictments and convictions…or condemnation.

I share all this with you to make a point and perhaps to ask some questions of friends, neighbors and even some detractors; where is the outcry when everyday folks shoot and kill each other in the streets of our community? I’ve seen no protests, no rallies, and heard no outcry; just silence and an occasional shaking of the head or clucking of the tongue.

Could it be that it’s really not so much about who’s doing the dying, but only about who’s pulling the trigger? If we’re willing to take our stand against what we deem to be excessive use of force or even police brutality, are we simply content to let everything else pass as “garden variety” violence in our neighborhoods so long as the shooter isn’t a cop?

Do we dare make a distinction between police violence and every other form of violence? Shame on us if we’ve lost the ability to be shocked or horrified when someone is shot to death or an innocent victim suffers at the hands of another and shame on us if we value life and peace in our community so little that we barely say a word about it when it happens.

Think what you will, but I refuse to believe that we’re stuck in a cycle of violence so that we’re unable to have a community where all can live in peace and safety. We’re willing to accept “zero-tolerance” when it comes to our schools; why can’t we have zero-tolerance when it involves violence in our neighborhoods?

I ask the question because if you’re idea of “zero-tolerance policy” basically means that police are the ones who have to deliver on it, we’ll never get there. If we expect to have a community that is relatively free of violence; where homicide is a once-in-a-generation thing; then it’s up to us to help make it happen.

Too many mothers weep as they lay their sons and daughters to rest; too many kids have lost one or both parents to a violent death or incarceration. There are too many weather-beaten roadside memorials bearing testimony to this fact throughout the county. It has to stop.

Some might think I’m living in fantasy land; maybe, but we can’t keep shooting and maiming each other. We have more power than we realize; we see it almost daily riding past the playgrounds and basketball courts filled with young people of all stripes playing together without a hint of violence.

But parents have to be more accountable for their teenagers; schools have to find new ways to push back against the street ethos, we have to come up with new citizen-police partnerships to deal with conflict, and people have to be willing to come forward with information before the shots are fired, not after the fact.

Scripture says “I wish above all things that you prosper and be in good health, just as your soul prospers.” That’s not too much to hope for nor is it too much to want a safe city and county for all our residents and my hope is that we’ll work together to make it happen.